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Speaking for Yourself: A Core Practice in Dialogue Therapy for Couples.
One of the most quietly radical ideas in couples therapy is also one of the simplest: speak for yourself. In Dialogue Therapy, this principle is not merely a communication skill—it is the ethical and emotional backbone of the work. Many couples arrive in therapy locked in a familiar loop. One partner speaks about the other (“You always…,” “You never…”), while the other becomes defensive, withdrawn, or counterattacks. Dialogue Therapy interrupts this cycle by asking partners to return to their own inner ground.
Feedback loops 101: Anchors, Waves, & Islands
In this blog post, I talk about attachment styles, and how we can learn about whether we are an Island, Anchor, or Waves. Understanding our attachment style enables us to related better in our relationships with partners, children, and co-workers.
Feedback Loops 101: understanding Attachment
In this blog series, I offer insight into how we learn to relationally dance, focusing on how positive and negative strokes lead to positive and negative feedback loops. No matter your current attachment style, the good news is that like a bad dance move (think Elaine, Seinfeld), you can retrace your steps and learn a better way of dancing with the people in your life.