Couples & Relational Depth Work.

Exploring the Unconscious Life of Relationships.

Depth work in couples therapy goes beyond communication skills and problem-solving—it invites partners to explore the deeper emotional and symbolic patterns that animate their relationship. Every partnership carries both a visible story and an invisible one: the unconscious field created by two psyches meeting, mirroring, and influencing each other.

In this work, we pay attention to what is said and what is felt—dreams, symbols, images, bodily responses, and emotional undercurrents that point toward what each partner longs for, fears, or defends against. Relationships, seen through a depth lens, are living systems of growth and meaning. They are where our earliest attachment wounds and our deepest desires for love, belonging, and freedom play out again and again—until they are brought into awareness and healed.

What Depth Work Looks Like in a Couples Context.

• Bringing the Unconscious to Light.
  Partners often project disowned aspects of themselves—what Jung called the shadow—onto each other. In session, we gently explore these projections as invitations to greater self-understanding rather than accusations to defend against. This process transforms conflict into a vehicle for personal and relational growth.

• Working with Triangulation.
  Depth-oriented couples work recognizes that the relationship field always includes “the third”—whether that’s another person, an idea, a child, a fantasy, or even the therapist. I hold awareness of these unconscious dynamics and strive to maintain a balanced, non-collusive stance, ensuring that the therapeutic space remains safe and centered on the relationship itself.

• Exploring Archetypal Patterns.
  Many couples unconsciously enact archetypal roles—the pursuer and the distancer, the caregiver and the rebel, the savior and the wounded one. Naming and understanding these symbolic patterns allows partners to step out of repetition and into conscious choice, seeing each other not as adversaries but as mirrors of their own becoming.

• Integrating Mindfulness and Embodiment.
  Mindfulness serves as the bridge between emotion and insight. By slowing down, observing sensations and tone, and practicing awareness in the moment, couples learn to recognize when they are triggered, grounded, or open. This embodied awareness allows for new relational possibilities—moments of contact, repair, and tenderness that emerge naturally when presence replaces reaction.

The Therapist’s Role.

In relational depth work, I serve as both witness and guide—tracking the emotional field that arises between you, between each of you and me, and within the space we create together. Rather than taking sides, I help surface what remains unspoken: the unconscious contracts, unexpressed needs, and defenses that keep you from authentic connection.

I hold the tension between individuality and union, supporting each partner’s self-expression while tending the shared space that holds you both. The goal is not to erase difference but to bring consciousness to it—transforming misunderstanding into empathy, and conflict into intimacy.

The Invitation.

Relational depth work is for couples who wish to go beyond symptom relief and enter the territory of growth, meaning, and soulful connection. It’s for those who sense that the challenges of love are also the catalysts for becoming more whole.

When two people commit to seeing themselves and each other more clearly, the relationship becomes a living vessel for transformation—a crucible where compassion, humility, and love take on deeper, more enduring forms.